Conflict is part of life. No one can escape it.
But if you find yourself trying to avoid it, you are not alone. Most people find conflict to be the most uncomfortable conversations.
For the June membership interview, I spoke with master-certified coach Rob Berkley on how to transform conflict for better, deeper relationships.
Rob is also my husband and business partner and the person I’ve had — and resolved — more conflict with than anyone. I’ve learned so much from him.
I am so pleased to announce Rob’s favorite book on conflict resolution as the June Book To Live By:
Resolve: Negotiating Life’s Conflicts with Greater Confidence by Hal Movius
In Resolve, Movius draws on his experience and insights from a career as a mediator, negotiation trainer and corporate executive coach.
Rob said one of the main reasons he recommended this book is because “it’s filled with practical advice that will give you confidence in many of the toughest negotiations you may encounter personally and professionally.”
Indeed, Movius identifies confidence as the major factor for having healthy, productive conflict.
He breaks confidence down into three key components — mastery, awareness and poise — to guide you through the process of turning conflict into negotiation.
The tools and strategies will put even the most timid person at ease. You’ll learn how to spot common pitfalls and errors in judgment.
Movius makes liberal use of lists and charts for easy comprehension. And a handy appendix summarizes the techniques for quick review.
With a little practice, you’ll soon find yourself stepping unafraid into the world of conflict resolution.
Here’s to better conflict!
Resolve: Negotiating Life’s Conflicts with Greater Confidence is available from Amazon and bookstores everywhere.