Such a sweet and bittersweet day today. Father’s Day.
Bittersweet for those of us whose fathers have died or from whom we are estranged. Since my precious Dad’s death in 2004, I notice I still turn on my heels any time I stumble upon the “Father’s Day card” display.
It hurts that he’s gone even though I can always feel him “up there” helping me!
This was the last photo I ever took of my father, only weeks before his sudden death, playing with my nephew Tyler. My entrepreneurial Dad turned this box into a toy and stuck his grandson in it for much merry-making!
But it is sweet to celebrate all those wonderful Dads out there today and I know so many extraordinary ones.
And, to see all of the lovely tributes to Dads, living or not, on Facebook.
One in particular — written by Women in Fire member Kay Raypholtz of Pioneer, Ohio — I wanted to share with you for its love and honesty.
To capture the full picture — not a sugar-coating — of a loved one who has died is a powerful way to learn and truly honor them. Kay has done that beautifully with Life on the Edge: Tribute to my Father.
We also have several Father’s Day birthdays today: Kitty Munger and Jody Poth, both of Columbus, Ohio; and Maureen Hanlon Wheeler, of Burlington, Vermont. If yours is also today, please forgive me and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
OK, so here we go …
The day Misty gave me my cherished “LIVE BOLD” t-shirt!
The picture above is a favorite of mine, taken last fall in Austin, Texas with Woman on Fire Misty Gibbs. I love meeting Women on Fire wherever I go!
Misty has enjoyed success locally in Texas with her Empower Lounge. And, she has been feverishly working on a concept and funding for a national Empower Lounge that would expand online support for women everywhere.
She is my kind of woman! She is determined to make it happen and continuously works away on this enormous project.
Years ago when I attended Ohio State University, its famous, feisty football coach Woody Hayes repeatedly reminded us students: “nothing that comes easy is worth a dime” — or “worth a damn,” depending on his audience!
I know so many of you are stepping up and working toward your dreams, too — and it’s a lot of work. And, it’s not easy.
That’s why we’re here together. To remind each other to be bold … to keep going … to take steps that are powerful, out-of-the-ordinary, maybe even a little crazy!
As our friend Stedman Graham told us when he spoke at our Women on Fire Retreat a couple of years ago: “you are not in the 98% of the people getting up, going to work, coming home, watching TV, going to bed. You are in the 2% making a difference in the world and sometimes you gotta be bold!”
And, it was Goethe who said: “Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.”
So how do we be bold? What does it mean to live boldly?
Here are 5 strategies you might use to find your way to being more bold:
1) Ask yourself what you wish you had the nerve to do even though it feels too big. Then, get a plan together and some support — and do it!
2) Pretend you are an actress and imagine how she would play you in all your fullness and success.
3) Who is the wisest person you know? Invite him or her to lunch and ask for help, advice and counsel.
4) Take risks. Loosen up about making mistakes. (As long as it doesn’t put your family in major jeopardy.) Learn from your mistakes and you’ll move further faster.
5) Make an unconventional move. When I began my coaching practice in 1995, I worked with all of my clients in person. Thomas Leonard, the founder of CoachU and modern-day coaching, told me “you can never have a sustainable business if you coach everyone in person.”
I thought he was nuts. I was scared, but I decided to test it. I lost one client. I gained many more and built a super successful, thriving practice coaching over the telephone and it sustained me for years. At the time, a bold and unconventional move that paid off!
So, I hope you are inspired to try something bold this week. And, I hope you will let me know how it works out for you!
Wishing you a week of bold steps ~
