The 3 Most Common Mistakes Women Make

This week on a Connecticut television show I share the mistakes women can make that prevent them from living a life “on fire” and the formula that helps to keep you strong and flourishing!

With Jocelyn Maminta, host of Connecticut
 on WTNH in New Haven.

Many of you know those mistakes and the ways to help you live your life to the fullest, but I thought it might be a good time for a refresher!

Because everything in television time is very brief, I narrowed down the three mistakes women can make to keep them from being successful:

Common Mistake Women Make

1) Women fail to cheer on the successes of other women. Former Secretary of State Madeleine Albright has said, “I think there is a special place in Hell for women who don’t support other women.” We agree!

When we cheer on each other, it inspires “a rising tide to lifts all boats.”

2) We fail to ask for help and take everything on ourselves.  Often becoming martyrs in the process.

Enough said!

3) We compare ourselves to others.  We often look at what other women have and do and then we feel less than.  I’m here to say that there will always be women smarter, wealthier, thinner, best dressed and with better behaved children, so we need to STOP comparing ourselves to anyone other than our own goals, dreams and desires.  And measure against that!

So here is our Women on Fire F.I.R.E. formula to focus on living the life you truly want:

F — Friends — Surround yourself with positive, uplifting women (hey, you’re here so I know you’re doing that!) who will cheer you on and support you. Minimize your contact with “friends” who mock you, ignore your successes, and are negative, toxic and draining.

I — Inspiration — Find a way each and every day to inspire yourself.  I keep a stack of books filled with inspiration on my bedside table. I open up to any passage in any of the books and am guaranteed to find a way to start my day out on a positive note!

R — Resources — You need the best resources when you’re going after your dreams to save yourself time and money. The best sources are often friends, family and colleagues who are willing to provide you with their own tried-and-true resources and contacts.

E — Easy — If going for your dreams feels hard (and that is different from sometimes feeling challenged as you pursue your dreams) or if you can’t stay focused on what you want, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your dreams and goals.  You may face tough times when pursuing your vision, but it should feel natural and easy that it is the right thing.

So there you have it.  You can tune in tomorrow at 12:30PM on WTNH-TV and watch the broadcast — or you can take this formula and get to work on living the life you truly want!

Have a great week and I’ll see Women on Fire monthly members on this week’s LIVE CHAT where we’ll discuss Creating A Strong Finish to 2014 and other topics!


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