Welcome new readers of The Spark!
Whether we’ve just met or I’ve known you for a long time, the question I’m always curious to learn is: what are you “on fire” about and what are you struggling with?
Your answer almost always lies somewhere between the wanting and the having — the struggle and the achievement — of your dream.
Women on Fire members celebrating and supporting each other in New York City last week (Photos by Meredith Schoenberger)
Discovering your passion and being supported on your path to your dream is the very reason I created Women on Fire more than a decade ago.
(There is no other community in the world quite like this one, which I know makes it rather difficult to explain to others, right?! You almost have to experience being cheered on by Women on Fire in person to understand the full impact of support 😉
So, how do you go from uncertainty, or a hint of an idea, to living a life rich in living your dreams and making a difference in the world?
Inch by inch. Step by step. Bird by bird, as writer Anne Lamott told us so powerfully in her best-selling book.
Above, I’m pictured with Deirdre Martin of Plainfield, New Jersey. Dee is well on the way to making her dream come true. She’s in that sweet spot on the journey. She continues to work a regular job while growing her dream and building her company, Assisting Virtually.
She works on it. Every single day. Step by step.
And, here’s Heike Vogel of New York City, one of our co-authors in the latest Women on Fire book. She made the courageous move from working for a large law firm to having it her way — starting her own law firm! She, too, works at building her dream. Every day. Case by case.
Have Dee and Heike fully achieved their biggest dreams and desires? Probably not — yet. But they are well on their way.
When you are clear about what you want and make small achievements day-by-day, steady progress takes you from idea to reality.
Where are you on the scale from struggling mightily to achieving your ultimate goal?
Here are five strategies to help you get from where you are to where you want to go:
1) Clarity — First, you must be clear about what you want. If you don’t know or aren’t sure, ask people you love and trust to tell you what you are great at doing. What you do naturally is often the biggest hint at what your gifts are.
And, in discovering and embracing your gifts, you are most likely to find your passion.
A mentor of mine, author Barbara Sher reminds us: “you must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue your dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.”
Clarity with a side order of focus also helps. I hear from a lot of women who tell me they want “to reach all the women in the world” with their project or idea. That is wonderful. Except when you start out so broadly, you can topple over before you get started.
How about reaching out to one woman with what you have to offer — and start the ball rolling that way? 🙂
2) Inspiration — “If you stay true to who you are, the world will embrace you,” the late Maya Angelou said. That quote alone can pick up my spirits when I doubt myself.
Keeping yourself in close reach of inspiration — whatever form inspiration means for you — is a very important aspect of reaching your goals. You need daily inspiration to keep yourself lit up and energized.
3) Strategies — It’s not enough to simply will your dreams into existence. You need practical, step-by-step “know-how” and “how-tos” to get where you are going.
Think of strategies as your GPS for getting where you want to go. Of course, I believe the powerful, tried-and-true strategies you learn at Women on Fire are the best! Still, you can find useful strategies from many different resources:
- Wisdom from someone who has accomplished what you dream of
- Books
- Magazines
- Popular culture
- Online forums
- Coaches with expertise in your area of interest
4) Support — Support is a essential and the framework for you to move from struggle toward what you deeply desire.
The pictures you see sprinkled here are of Women on Fire members coming together to cheer each other on, to be in each other’s company to share the excitement of the journey. With support, you will feel your tank filled and your spirit enlivened.
5) Perserverance — If you have a great idea and are passionate about it, don’t give up! Perseverance is the secret of all triumphs.
With inspiring Woman on Fire Teri Goetz at the NYC gathering
Any and all of these strategies can help you to move from wanting your dream to actually making it happen! Let me know what kind of inspiration, strategies and support you’ve found work best for you.
Have a great week ahead! It’s my birthday this week so I’m taking off a few days to celebrate and enjoy a little rest and relaxation. 🙂
Love,
